First of all, fat does not automatically equal unhealthy, but I’m not even going to get started on that because I’ll be here all day.
Here’s my real question: So fucking what if it is unhealthy? You cannot use the “It’s unhealthy” excuse to try and stop fat people from being okay with…
well sure, but there is a difference between a drink of alcohol or poor hygiene and being a hundred, or even two hundred pounds over weight. And I’m sorry, but there is a point where I don’t understand how a person can look in the mirror and say, “yeah, I’m ok with this.” I’m not saying you have to be stick skinny, but really. There is no way that you can tell me those people are actually happy with their lives. And quite frankly, they SHOULDN’T be ok with it. Because if they are, that means they have issues even larger than their (considerable) weight that desperately need to be addressed.
Do you not even see what you did there? You compared having a drink of alcohol (a choice) and having poor hygiene (a choice) with being considerably overweight (You have NO IDEA if it’s an individual’s choice or not), and that’s pretty much the point of the original post. You don’t know. You’re making assumptions based on stereotypes and stigmas and trying to disguise them as some charitable concern about health, when really what you’re saying is, “Your body is the wrong kind of body to be.”
It’s okay if you don’t understand how a morbidly obese person can be okay with their body, because you don’t have to understand everything in the world. But just because you don’t understand it doesn’t make it any less okay, or any less true.
And actually, there IS a way that I can tell you those people can be happy with their lives. Watch: Those people can be happy with their lives. See how easy that was? Again, just because you don’t understand how it could be true doesn’t make it any less true. The best thing about happiness is that it is the least discriminatory thing in the world. People of all classes, sizes, genders, identities, races, sexual preferences, religions or lack of religions, and walks of life; can be, and are allowed to be, happy and you don’t get to try and take that away from ANYBODY just because you don’t like something about them.
I have a REALLY big issue with you trying to tell someone what they should and shouldn’t be okay with. Like, HUGE issue.
Listen, sugar pie: When you get crowned Queen of the World because your obviously superior intellect and unending wisdom qualifies you to tell other people how to live their lives, THEN you can tell people what they should and shouldn’t be okay with. And when you get your PhD in Psychology, THEN you can feel free to help all the people (fat and skinny, stick thin and extremely obese, and everybody in between) with their “issues that desperately need to be addressed” — but even then, ONLY if they come to you for help first.
Anything else is totally patronizing and wholly unwelcome.
^^^ This is why I love this girl. Among, like, a million other reasons. But y’know.
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